Doodle Breeders' Forum
Welcome to the Doodle Breeder's Forum, a discussion forum for doodle breeders. We hope to have lively, productive, open discussions about the breeding of poodles with any of the retrievers. Feel free to express your opinions but please be civil to each other. Anonymous posts are allowed, but be aware that they are less likely to receive responses. While this is a place for breeders to discuss breeding issues, owners may comment if they feel they have something to add. Owners with questions should post them to the The Doodle Zoo.
This is a public forum that is moderated by breeders but not associated with any one breeding program.
Your friendly hosts are Andee of Canyon Court Labradoodles, Helene of Westwood Labradoodles and Goldendoodles, and Tracy of Surfside Labradoodles.
If you would like to contact the moderators, please do so at:
Moderators@hotpop.com. Any email to that address will reach all three moderators.
Discussion is encouraged, please read the guidelines for 'civil discourse' posted at the bottom of this page.
Please also visit our 'Breeder Corner', a collection of links and information we hope will be useful to breeders.
If you need to contact the moderators, please email them at Moderators@hotpop.com
Here are some basic guidelines for discussions where differing opinions can cause emotions to rise:
1. Show respect for others
This means discussing ideas, not people. If someone challenges one of your ideas, respond as a challenge of the idea, not as a challenge of you.
2. Use helpful language.
Avoid vulgar or rude references.
3. Recognize a person’s right to express an idea that is different from your own.
“Democracy is a means of living together despite our differences. Democratic deliberation is an alternative to physical violence. It is predicated on the assumption that it’s possible to disagree agreeably, that it’s better to laugh than cry, that one can vigorously contest the positions of one’s adversary without questioning his or her personal integrity or motivation, and that parties to a debate are entitled to the presumption that their views are legitimate if not correct.”
-Thomas Mann
4. Speak (or write) for yourself.
Use "I" statements ("I feel this statement was unclear", rather than, "You were unclear".)
5. Speak from your own experiences.
Let other people answer questions addressed to them.
6. Speak (or write) as you would like to be addressed
Use a civil tone. Restate ideas if asked.
7. Agree to listen
Understand that what you said might not be what people understood you to say. Expect people to ask for clarification.
8. Ask for clarification if you are unsure of what was said.
Here are some basic guidelines for discussions where differing opinions can cause emotions to rise:
1. Show respect for others
This means discussing ideas, not people. If someone challenges one of your ideas, respond as a challenge of the idea, not as a challenge of you.
2. Use helpful language.
Avoid vulgar or rude references.
3. Recognize a person’s right to express an idea that is different from your own.
“Democracy is a means of living together despite our differences. Democratic deliberation is an alternative to physical violence. It is predicated on the assumption that it’s possible to disagree agreeably, that it’s better to laugh than cry, that one can vigorously contest the positions of one’s adversary without questioning his or her personal integrity or motivation, and that parties to a debate are entitled to the presumption that their views are legitimate if not correct.”
-Thomas Mann
4. Speak (or write) for yourself.
Use "I" statements ("I feel this statement was unclear", rather than, "You were unclear".)
5. Speak from your own experiences.
Let other people answer questions addressed to them.
6. Speak (or write) as you would like to be addressed
Use a civil tone. Restate ideas if asked.
7. Agree to listen
Understand that what you said might not be what people understood you to say. Expect people to ask for clarification.
8. Ask for clarification if you are unsure of what was said.
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