1. Show respect for others
This means discussing ideas, not people. If someone
challenges one of your ideas, respond as a challenge of the idea, not as a challenge of you.
2. Use helpful language.
Avoid vulgar or rude references.
3. Recognize a person’s right to express an idea that is different from your own.
“Democracy is a means of living together despite our differences. Democratic deliberation is an alternative to physical violence. It is predicated on the assumption that it’s possible to disagree agreeably, that it’s better to laugh than cry, that one can vigorously contest the positions of one’s adversary without questioning his or her personal integrity or motivation, and that parties to a debate are entitled to the presumption that their views are legitimate if not correct.”
4. Speak (or write) for yourself.
Use "I" statements ("I feel this statement was unclear", rather than, "You were unclear".)
5. Speak from your own experiences.
Let other people answer questions addressed to them.
6. Speak (or write) as you would like to be addressed
Use a civil tone.
Restate ideas if asked.
7. Agree to listen
Understand that what you said might not be what people understood you to say. Expect people to ask for clarification.
8. Ask for clarification if you are unsure of what was said.
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