I made no choice. And, I am not whining. Everyone makes their own choices.

My board is open to all (with few exceptions ... those who just want to disrupt everyone). I am not a net-nanny like Ken and the Blew Board admins. On my board, it's up to each poster to manage their own relationships with others. I can't fix your problems with Curmudgeon and Smartin. Likewise, I can't solve your Mexican standoff with shadow. Our board is a microcosm of the real world, where tempers flare and people exhibit road rage with other folks that they don't even know. The real problem lies within ourselves. Poppet, the only solution is self-control, and the only thing that we can control is ourselves. When we gain total self-control, our problems with others will diminish greatly.