David F MayerIn Iran, you can have marriage for a single night.Thu Feb 10, 2011 8:00am220.127.116.11Of course, it is only available to the rich and powerful clerics who run the country. They say, since it is legal (which it is because they wrote the laws), it does not have a bad effect on the girls (yes, most are under 16). I can just see a young man who is interested in a young lady ask her how many times she has been married previously. He would run for the hills when she answered, "Oh, about five hundred."
David F Mayer
- That Depends... Uru Hammer, Thu Feb 10 6:33amIt depends on the expectations one has when going into the marriage, how those expectations evolve, the reality of the marriage, and the motivations for the divorce. Is a train station a "failure" of ... more
- In Iran, you can have marriage for a single night. David F Mayer, Thu Feb 10 8:00am
- Not quite cc, Fri Feb 11 5:26amRent-a-wife is available to any male who pays off the mullah pimp.
- Interesting idea. A 5-year expiration date. SES, Thu Feb 10 6:56amMy only issue with that is that it ignores the "Child Factor". In my opinion, when two married people decide to bring a child into the world, they owe it to that child to provide him or her with a... more
- That was once legal in Russia. (nm) David F Mayer, Thu Feb 10 5:13pm
- I happen to agree with U in this case; so what happen with U sT, Thu Feb 10 10:16am? If my post had not been BURNED, I would have explored this further with U when I found time to get back to it. U have children; it affects them at ANY age. My father, who jumped the Rhine in WWII,... more
- Having Kids Would Make... Uru Hammer, Thu Feb 10 6:59am...a 5 year expiration more complicated, but not impossible. After all, some people have divorces that work out just fine. I think that the expiration could actually work better than a divorce in... more
- They don't dwell on it in public cc, Thu Feb 10 8:14amBut, I found when looking at biographies for my Music Video Links that many filthy rich celebrities have children without bothering to get married. In some cases they have been subjects of the... more
- I disagree. SES, Thu Feb 10 7:12amI think a Divorce that involves young children (0 to, say, 14 or 15) does harm to the children. I know that people will say "It was better for the marriage to end than for the kids to see their... more
- I disagree. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 5:41pmEven if there are children involved, sometimes it *is* better that the parents divorce rather than sticking it out until the kids are grown. Very few adults can be mature enough, if they want out of... more
- Some Agreement... Uru Hammer, Thu Feb 10 7:20amYes, parents should focus on the well-being of the child, and on making sure the child gets what the child needs, but that can be done within the framework of a divorce. It just takes more effort. It ... more
- we don't disagree... donk, Thu Feb 10 6:43ameven to include the "renewable contract" idea, but my question was a serious attempt to understand a condition in which divorce wouldn't be a failure of some extent.
- I have a friend who... SES, Thu Feb 10 6:59am...got married at around 23 or 24. After 3 or 4 years (there were no children from the marriage) they agreed that it had been a mistake, and they got a "no-fault" divorce, and each went on the merry... more
- If they made vows that included Moraith, Thu Feb 10 7:34ama til death do us part promise and they divorced, the marriage is a failure because they are still living and have parted. That your friend (and many other people, as well) realized that the marriage ... more
- Only if one limits ones self to that somewhat antiquated Sprout, Thu Feb 10 4:20pmideal that the ONLY possible definer of a successful marriage is a lifelong committment. I think if they married with good intentions, and lived together happily for at least a time, and parted... more
- I agree with most of your thoughts. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 5:30pmMarriage doesn't need to be a lifelong commitment. When I officiate a wedding, I never include the phrasing til death do you part. I say for as long as your love shall last. I do this, because even... more
- I agree with you... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 5:34pmI think that IF the couple BOTH really do want a lifelong partnership, then they are going to have to work at it because we all change throughout our lives. And life throws other changes at us as... more
- You make some really good points. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 6:05pmI've discovered that, at least among my married friends, my marriage is a bit of an anomaly. My husband and I are intent on having a lifelong partnership. We've had our share of hurdles, especially... more
- Maybe a bit of miscommunication.... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 7:09pmI think most couples WANT that ideal fairy tale marriage where they are still chasing each other lustfully around the house in their wheelchairs 60 years after the ceremony... I think most folks... more
- Fair enough Moraith, Thu Feb 10 8:31pmI definitely see and understand your point. I'm beginning to think that where we disagree is in semantics.
- The Marriage was a failure, the Divorce was a success. SES, Thu Feb 10 7:39amIf that's not what I said, that's what I meant.
- Ok thanks for the clarification :) (nm) Moraith, Thu Feb 10 7:44am
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