SproutOnly if one limits ones self to that somewhat antiquatedThu Feb 10, 2011 4:20pm220.127.116.11ideal that the ONLY possible definer of a successful marriage is a lifelong committment.
I think if they married with good intentions, and lived together happily for at least a time, and parted happily at the end, I would say the OVERALL process was a SUCCESS...
I think there WILL come a time when folks come to recognize that a lifelong committment isn't the ONLY way to be married. And that folks will marry, not until death do they part, but until they agree that the marriage is no longer the right thing for them as a couple. And leave each other with FOND memories and no regrets.
- If they made vows that included Moraith, Thu Feb 10 7:34ama til death do us part promise and they divorced, the marriage is a failure because they are still living and have parted. That your friend (and many other people, as well) realized that the marriage ... more
- Only if one limits ones self to that somewhat antiquated Sprout, Thu Feb 10 4:20pm
- I agree with most of your thoughts. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 5:30pmMarriage doesn't need to be a lifelong commitment. When I officiate a wedding, I never include the phrasing til death do you part. I say for as long as your love shall last. I do this, because even... more
- I agree with you... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 5:34pmI think that IF the couple BOTH really do want a lifelong partnership, then they are going to have to work at it because we all change throughout our lives. And life throws other changes at us as... more
- You make some really good points. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 6:05pmI've discovered that, at least among my married friends, my marriage is a bit of an anomaly. My husband and I are intent on having a lifelong partnership. We've had our share of hurdles, especially... more
- Maybe a bit of miscommunication.... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 7:09pmI think most couples WANT that ideal fairy tale marriage where they are still chasing each other lustfully around the house in their wheelchairs 60 years after the ceremony... I think most folks... more
- Fair enough Moraith, Thu Feb 10 8:31pmI definitely see and understand your point. I'm beginning to think that where we disagree is in semantics.
- The Marriage was a failure, the Divorce was a success. SES, Thu Feb 10 7:39amIf that's not what I said, that's what I meant.
- Ok thanks for the clarification :) (nm) Moraith, Thu Feb 10 7:44am
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