SproutI agree with you...Thu Feb 10, 2011 5:34pm18.104.22.168I think that IF the couple BOTH really do want a lifelong partnership, then they are going to have to work at it because we all change throughout our lives. And life throws other changes at us as well.
I wonder how many couples who SAID those "traditional" vows really, in their heart meant a lot more along the lines of what you say... for as long as their love shall last (I like that one, many kudos.)
I think in a modern practical world, I don't see many folks marrying without having both of them at one point leading up to it at least THINKING that it might not last forever and that it might end in divorce...
I think folks today, whatever words they use at the ceremony recognize from a purely practical standpoint that it simply may not last.
- I agree with most of your thoughts. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 5:30pmMarriage doesn't need to be a lifelong commitment. When I officiate a wedding, I never include the phrasing til death do you part. I say for as long as your love shall last. I do this, because even... more
- I agree with you... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 5:34pm
- You make some really good points. Moraith, Thu Feb 10 6:05pmI've discovered that, at least among my married friends, my marriage is a bit of an anomaly. My husband and I are intent on having a lifelong partnership. We've had our share of hurdles, especially... more
- Maybe a bit of miscommunication.... Sprout, Thu Feb 10 7:09pmI think most couples WANT that ideal fairy tale marriage where they are still chasing each other lustfully around the house in their wheelchairs 60 years after the ceremony... I think most folks... more
- Fair enough Moraith, Thu Feb 10 8:31pmI definitely see and understand your point. I'm beginning to think that where we disagree is in semantics.
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