Discuss their wants and needs NOW.
Wed Nov 15, 2017 10:47pm

Discuss end-of-life care options and wishes NOW.

Discuss funeral arrangements and things they want done or NOT done NOW.

Prepay funeral costs or at least do up a funeral PLAN that you can follow when the time comes because many funeral directors are unscrupulous and will take advantage of the grief-stricken. If you do the research ahead of time and also KNOW what your parents actually want, then you won't fall for guilt-purchases and overdoing things because you're SO desperate to do something wonderful for them and to "show your love". That helplessness isn't something you can anticipate until faced with a deep loss. There's NOTHING you can do because they are gone so you're helpless to do anything for them at a time when you desperately want to do something to bring them back and/or honor them by showing your deep love. So, the crappy people in the world tend to find the vulnerable and they take advantage of them because it's that easy to do.

The fewer decisions you have to make, the better. Knowing what they want done with their belongings is also helpful.

  • Beware the sharksPikes, Wed Nov 15 4:28pm
    I am an only child, and can offer only my experience- in what went right and where mistakes were made. Really there are no mistakes. There are ways and then better ways. When we emerge at the end of... more
    • Discuss their wants and needs NOW. — Sia☺giah, Wed Nov 15 10:47pm
      • AbsolutelyPikes, Fri Nov 17 12:39pm
        We did that, and even with plans in place, efforts by sharks praying to overcharge this and that, above the already agreed deals, attempting to play on sympathy, one of whom was a former occasional... more