I cannot tell you how intimidating this sounds to me; I so respect anyone could carry this heavy load and not crumble under the weight of it.
A recent experience I had with some ladies I was mentoring (at their request); it resulted in one of them turning all of them against me because she had the impression I was judging her; this would be one of the "unintentional" actions that you list here, and I was so crushed to think I had caused her pain because of my insensitivity. It happened a few months ago, and recently I was able to recognize it was "her" problem -- not my own -- when a friend who is a recovering alcoholic clued me about the triangle known as Drama Triangle: Victim, rescuer, persecutor.
I, of course, apologized immediately as soon as I recognized having offended, and I had assumed the position of "persecutor" to her at this juncture, but she is working through her own "guilt" issues and I have no intention of resuming the "rescuer" position again, but that is just one of the things that I would find a crushing experience.
Anyway, my respect for you increases that you actually hold to these burdens in Judaism. Perhaps if I had been raised in that discipline it would be more understandable.
Intention, Action, and Responsibility/Obligation are of central importance in Judaism. All Jews are responsible for their actions regardless of their intention. For example, if one causes harm to... more
History, this just boggles my mind! §aint Chri§,Wed May 7 03:20
Thanks for your post, Chriž Feel free to share your views on the subject. I am curious to what you find "intimidating" or a "burden" ? Are you referring to living one's life with thought to how one's ... more
the "intimidating" or a "burden!" is the difficulty I shared with you about the Roman Catholic tradition of my grandmother and uncle. I have tried to examine myself to see if I am trying to take the... more