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Inventing Joy
Condolences & Message to Phyllis
Thu May 5, 2016 12:09am

January 15 2002 from my Journal
I lost my 2 precious service dogs in the days just before & after the horrific tragedy of 9/11. My best friend lost her son in 9/11. How could I grieve with the support of my friends when my losses were “only dogs?” My friends & myself were focused on supporting her. A few years later she died of a broken heart (heart attack) I still grieve for her. I never really got to grieve for my precious dogs.

Just knowing that my friends honor and don’t diminish my loss (“oh its only a dog”) is important. I am grateful to recieve sympathy cards. Mostly I want people to talk about their memories of my beautiful animals and let me cry and grieve and mourn no matter how long it takes. And tell me that its okay to mourn and talk about them and to tell me how much they respect the enormity of my loss.

Graves don't give me any solace. I have been judged harshly for this, but I think we all grieve in our own way and it is important to know that about our friends when deciding what would be most comforting. I like it when people ASK ME what would be most comforting. Even if I don't know, if the person asks and then listens, it gives me a chance to explore it in my own mind as I express it. Asking and listening shows compassion and caring. That is what I need most at that time.

These are my thoughts & condolences.

They come to earth to teach us lessons. They leave when they have taught us the lesson, not when we are ready but when it is time. It is our job to learn the lesson and honor their memory by doing something with the lesson. They live on through the way we use the lesson we learned from them to improve our world. Each time we do something wonderful in their honor, they surround us with a smile from the universe. Our hearts are with you and your loved ones, Puppy love from Joy, furry folk & the Twinkles***
By Joy de la Ren

To those i love ...when I am gone release me. Let me go. I have so many things to see and do. You mustn't tie yourself to me with tears, be happy for that we had so many years. I gave you my love . You can only guess how much you gave me in happiness. But now it is time that I travel on alone. So grieve awhile for me if grieve you must, then let your grief be comforted by trust. Its only for a while that we must part, so bless the memories within your heart. I won’t be far away, for life goes on. So, if you need me, call and I will come. Though you can’t see or touch me, I'll be near, and if you listen with your heart, you'll hear all of my love around you soft and clear. And then, when you must come this way alone, I'll greet you with a smile and say "welcome home"
Author unknown. Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
Author unknown...

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