Thank you, Ren. I know you speak with lots of knowledge behind your words. Personally, I have come to believe it is pretty serious. I don't think it will get like "killer" because we won't let it get that far; however, Daisy is VERY determined and she is pretty strong-willed in other ways. Plus, she seems to have the capacity to wait for just the right moment when we relax a little and then she pounces. I do feel sorry for Maggie because she has become pretty non-assertive when around Daisy and doesn't come to us for attention very much unless we ask. I think when Daisy is around, she is fearful. I suppose a good experienced trainer could tell if we are strong enough to make this work. I actually think it is that we just aren't Alpha people and don't ooze that message that we are in control. I don't want you to work on research until we DO have our heart set on working it out. Daisy does pretty well in the guest cottage where she is Queen now. I am thinking of renting it out "rent-free" if they take care of and love Daisy! Good grief!
Kelli is probably chuckling because we came to her 4 1/2 years ago asking for a gentle, non-assertive dog because we had spent 10 years with an EXTREMELY alpha Rottie that we loved dearly. However, it took a tremendous amount of continuing daily workouts and positive reinforcement for him to learn to WANT to do what I thought was right rather than what he thought. We always felt he was dangerous, but he never hurt anyone though he did pin the delivery guy to the door one day until I told him to give! Long story...but he was a great dog and we loved him. We had previously had a Rottie that was gentle as you can imagine, so I have come to believe it is all about breeding which is why we contacted Kelli. We were definitely ready for a gentle loving animal and Kelli provided just the one for us, Maggie. Now we just have to love and protect her and try to meet our other obligations as well.
I am so grateful for this forum. What a blessing to have this kind of support from hugs to professional recommendations! I LOVE McDoodles and their owners!