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Emily Alfano
Dumb Sacrifices
Fri Oct 5, 2012 4:50pm
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I have made a lot of stupid sacrifices and actions in my past relationships that did not end up being worth the trouble. I have found myself doing these dumb things in both my romantic relationships and some friendships.
Freshmen and sophomore year, I thought I was absolutely IN LOVE with this one boy. I basically had an obsession with him, not going to lie. We were best friends and I didnít think he knew that I liked him. He did of course. I tried to be somebody I wasnít for him so that maybe he would ask me to be his girlfriend. I changed my hair color for him because he said it might look good one me. I tried to look good everyday for him and impress him. It was stupid, of course. Obviously I wasnít going to marry him, even though I thought I was going to. After sophomore year I totally got over my huge crush on him and only thought of him as my best friend. Yes, senior year of high school he came out of the closest and we still laugh to this day how I loved him and how things turned out. Itís crazy how much I tried to change myself just to impress one person.
Another example of my stupid sacrifices was with my boyfriend senior year. I liked him a lot, but I was fooling myself. I liked the fact that I had a boyfriend more than I actually liked him. He was a football player for my high school, so obviously I liked going to the games with my friends. The problem was that we had totally different groups of friends. He went out with my friends and I a few nights, but he was more of a person to stay home and watch a movie. I thought it was cute for a while, but then I started getting annoyed. I was missing out on fun parties with all my friends that I loved so much to hang out with my boyfriend that I wasnít totally head of heels for. He would get jealous if I left his house after the movie to go out with my friends, even though I invited him before and he said he didnít want to go. I felt like I was being held back from fully enjoying my senior year, and as an independent person this was a huge problem. Soon after, I broke up with him and he turned into a jerk to me, naturally. I didnít really care though because I would much rather have fun with my crazy friends.
Itís insane how much I, even though I try to think I donít do it, have sacrificed and done things to impress others that ended up being stupid. I donít know why we all do this, but I guess when we want something so bad we try to fit a mold. Looking back, I see how dumb I have been in my past relationships.

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