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Re:Spanner & Spinner
Wed Apr 21, 2010 4:20am

Hi Deb:

I have thought about you none stop over the last couple of years too. This adventure has been going on for 16 yrs and many of the posters have been here all the way along. It's hard to have to post about the inevitable finish of life, whether human or animal. It's the topic no one wants to face and reading reminders makes everyone uncomfortable. I just hated the idea of having to lay a downer on everyone. I guess the good news is that I am on the otherside of the process and I have survived. I know, I know absolutely that I did everything a pet owner could possibly do even to the point of over doing at my own health risk. I just could not function any other way, though I'm not sure I would recommend all pet owners to do the same. This has been a very stressful house since January trying to find something that would keep Spin relaxed and not yipping at her very sharp, high pitched level. Honestly, I don't know how my husband kept coming home every night to listen to the barking. Obviously the fact that she was taking anti-anxiety meds over pain meds and still not getting much relief led me to finally admit that I had exhausted every path and could not find an answer. I wasn't leaving the house during the day but waiting till my husband could be home to comfort her while I did food shopping. The problem was it had to be me with her constantly, she would not be comforted by anyone else. That makes for a difficult existence and a whole lot of pressure.

Do you still have your pup and if so are you enjoying the companionship? Would you advise picking a new companion as you did? I don't see us doing anything pet wise for a while. We paid out so much on boarding over the last few years just to go on vacations or to see the grandkids, it was just out of hand. I don't have neighbors around or family who happily volunteer to watch pets. My daughter on the other hand have families begging to let her dogs come and stay, even if it's just a sleep over. Criminy how lucky is that? My husband will retire from teaching this June and we are thinking through what we want to do - stay in CA or move to NV near the grandkids. With monetary issues and real estate so wobbly, it's not an easy decision. Adding to our pet family is probably best left for a time until we final up our plans. Also, we would need some assurance we could depend on family to pet sit. I paid $55.00/day over Thanksgiving for a gal to take Spin into her home through a pet services contractor. Talk about pet service charges being out of wack whether grooming, boarding, day care, meds, etc. It certainly is stopping families from enjoying the company of a pet in many cases. Rather sad. I'm trying to build myself back up, get my back stronger, less painful. My shoulder, whether tendinitis or rotary injury is easing up and my knees are less of a problem. I am planning on working hard in the yards as being outside is very nurishing for my mental health and great for the physical body. I think I paid the price of not having the time to work outside with the dogs in failing health and my body let me know it wasn't happy. This is yet another point that we dedicated pet owners should be aware of, the price we may be paying in not taking adequate care of ourselves while caregiving for pets, especially animals of any weight. So glad you wrote and you will remain in my thoughts also.

  • Re: Spanner & SpinnerDeb L., Tue Apr 20 9:24pm
    Mary, I've thought of you often in the years since I lost Coop, and wondered how you were coping. So it was with a heavy heart that I read your post. I'm glad you seem to have found peace in dealing... more
    • Re:Spanner & Spinner — Mary, Wed Apr 21 4:20am
      • Re:Spanner & SpinnerDeb L., Thu Apr 29 9:55pm
        Hi Mary, I know you did everything, and more, for your precious babies...I would have too. In some ways, I'm glad Cooper went quickly on his own, although another part of me (a BIG part of me) wishes ... more
        • Re:Spanner & SpinnerMary, Fri Apr 30 4:51am
          Hi Deb: Good to hear back from you. So glad Shep has become a great companion to you. Nothing like a young dog to insist on your getting up and taking care of their needs, wants, and desires. Pretty... more
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